shwiggitude ([info]shwiggitude) wrote,
2008-09-11 13:59:00
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happy birthday to me

i am at work sitting under a large and colorful bouquet of balloons that say happy birthday which was sent to me by the sweetest girlfriend ever.

:)      well, this is one way to come out to your coworkers...

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[info]earthfaemama

September 11 2008, 23:03:50 UTC 3 years ago

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!! *\o/*

[info]shwiggitude

September 15 2008, 18:44:03 UTC 3 years ago

thanks! it took me awhile to figure out that your cheering icon wasn't something a little more.. racy..

ie it kinda looks like a bush :) hee hee

[info]earthfaemama

September 15 2008, 22:53:13 UTC 3 years ago

omg! hahahaha! Dats funny.. Well, I know where your mind is lately!!! MUAH!

I notice in your latest post you do facebook. So do I! What are the odds. *snort* Here is the linkage http://www.new.facebook.com/home.php#/profile.php?id=1048468508&ref=name

Here is myspace in case you do dat too. http://www.myspace.com/programmingdataboi

Im plugged in I giess you could say.

Glad to see you back in the LJ!

[info]earthfaemama

September 15 2008, 22:54:49 UTC 3 years ago

Oh wait, you gotta know my email to do a friend request on the myspace. Its faeotheearth@yahoo.com

Waaaaay more info than you wanted to know, Im sure. =p But Im one of those pushy people who goes out of their way to be your friend. Hope you dont mind. LOL!

[info]shwiggitude

September 16 2008, 01:10:13 UTC 3 years ago

;)

[info]singingnettle

September 12 2008, 05:55:15 UTC 3 years ago

Oh, I dunno. There's tons of reasons why someone of the same gender might send you flowers.

If the card, however, said something like, "I'll see you later in our bed, you hot mama, you," that might make things a teensy bit less ambiguous.

[info]singingnettle

September 12 2008, 05:55:29 UTC 3 years ago

And Happy Birthday. :-)

[info]shwiggitude

September 15 2008, 18:38:06 UTC 3 years ago

apparently she wanted to write something racy but was too embarrassed to tell it to the balloon delivery people. in any case, it's more like an opportunity than a forced outing - like, people ask who sent them and i tell them "my girlfriend," which is an easier way of dispelling the assumption that i'm straight than going around and dropping hints about being gay. it's a good thing :)

[info]singingnettle

September 15 2008, 19:39:08 UTC 3 years ago

I am remembering my first real encounter with someone who was living as a lesbian (vs. a few friends who were flirting 'round the subject but not out about it, even to themselves, yet). Now, realize that this is 1970; even in NY, women were not massively eager to be known as gay. It had not been even a decade since being known as gay could get you involuntarily committed and it still was not conducive to maintaining your features in their original configuration and keeping your job. So, there was this office party; and my good friend and co-worker brought her partner and introduced her to everyone as her lover. I was embarrassed and also worried for her. "Why did you have to do that?" I said. "I mean, I came with my boyfriend and I didn't introduce him by saying, 'Hi, this is the guy I'm sleeping with.' Why couldn't you say just that she was your friend?" My friend said, "You can't understand this. People's default assumption is that if you're with a man, he's your lover. People's default assumption when they see me with a woman is that she's not. But she's NOT 'just my friend.' She's my reason for living. I'm tired of pretending that she's not as important to me as she is." I apologized.

In 1970, that took a lot of guts. Today, it's not quite as risky to one's career and well-being. Still, I imagine that it gets pretty tiring to walk the line between revealing too much of your personal life and letting people make an assumption about you that's so fundamentally wrong.

[info]shwiggitude

September 16 2008, 01:19:28 UTC 3 years ago

well, also i think there's some truth the idea that if you know a gay person you're less likely to discriminate against them and more likely to think they deserve rights. so i do think that being out is a good political move. on the other hand, i'm not very open with acquaintances about my personal life in general, so it's akward to just fling that out there for political gain.

i really respect queer people who came of age in earlier times. i can imagine that it would have been similar to the environment of cameroon, where homosexuality is illegal. i was out to exactly one cameroonian there, and that was my boyfriend (note the irony :)

[info]singingnettle

September 16 2008, 01:21:51 UTC 3 years ago

also i think there's some truth the idea that if you know a gay person you're less likely to discriminate against them

Yes. Putting faces on concepts is good.

[info]puffpastry

September 22 2008, 06:24:26 UTC 3 years ago

i was out to exactly one cameroonian there, and that was my boyfriend.

That sentence is pretty hilarious!

So anyway: girlfriend?!?! Tell us more! :-)

[info]shwiggitude

September 22 2008, 19:51:41 UTC 3 years ago

um.. well can i say? she's a cute, sweet, hot, feminist singer-songwriter, who i happen to be head over heels for :) we sort of met in the lesbian avengers and then met again in calliope women's chorus.

[info]blubberfatality

September 12 2008, 07:32:55 UTC 3 years ago

so nice!!

and glad to hear you've found love again!!!

[info]blubberfatality

September 12 2008, 07:33:16 UTC 3 years ago

whoops AND i hope your day was filled with many more happy surprises!

[info]shwiggitude

September 15 2008, 18:38:27 UTC 3 years ago

me too :)

[info]freakchelle

September 12 2008, 21:04:13 UTC 3 years ago

Happy belated birthday! And yay for new girlfriends!

[info]shwiggitude

September 15 2008, 18:42:37 UTC 3 years ago

yay indeed!
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